No sex please, we're Infertile!Remember a couple of weeks ago, when I was congratulating myself on not having a "real" fertility problem? Well, seems the celebrations were a bit short-lived. DH's SA results were bad again. Very low motility - 8% category A and 32% A&B. Unlikely (although not impossible - it has happened before) that we will conceive naturally. He has to see a urologist, and if he can't be fixed, then we'll need treatment. The secretary in the fertility clinic was very evasive and wouldn't give me any definite answers, but it seems we are talking about IVF.
I don't care about the expense (I should), I don't care about the physical trauma of the treatment (will also have to have lap and HSG). I do care, however, that it is going to be months before anything will be done. 2 months until urologist appt. 2 further weeks until next fertility clinic appt. More time for lap and HSG. And then the final wait for whatever treatment is decided on = no baby until at least summer 2007.
My poor little fella will be 3 1/2 by then. He loves babies and is very gentle and caring with them. He knows that friends of his have brothers and sisters, but has not yet wondered why he doesn't. Originally we wanted a 2 year gap. Between each of our 4 children. As time went by, we settled on a 2 1/2 year gap for starters, then 3. Of course this would mean speeding up the process of having subsequent children, but we accepted that we no longer had control over the procedure and vowed never to use contraception again. Now we are just hoping for another child, by whatever means possible.
I still believe that we will have more children, but I accept that there is a possibility that this might not happen. Did I say accept? No, what I meant was, I understand that statistically it does not look great. However, I will not allow us to become one of those statistics, that is simply not an option for us.
I have started the adoption ball rolling. I know this is another long, dark road, but it is one we are prepared to travel to build the family we've wanted for so long.
So, things haven't gone according to plan - what do you do? Well, options have be reassessed, plans have been reformulated, and hopes and dreams are now being realigned to the new emerging timescale.