A new waiting gameWe had our first adoption meeting last week. It was an information meeting that people must attend prior to getting application forms. I'd like to say that it was the first step onto an exciting new path to becoming a parent, but it just felt like the same shit, new queue; two year wait for this, six month wait for that.
There were about 50 couples and several single women, anxiously waiting to find out how much longer they must put their dreams of parenthood on hold. There was a presentation on the whole adoption approval procedure, but most attendees had little patience for the administrative details; it wasn't long before hands started going up - how long for this, how long for that? I could see the speakers becoming irritated, but they must have seen it all before.
Here we are, in a room full of predominantly infertile couples, who have been waiting for referrals, waiting for appointments, waiting for results, waiting for treatments, waiting for a miracle, and we all know that we need to quantify our next endurance test. We need to pin down the exact number of months (cycles) this will take, so we can measure out our lives appropriately. So, break it down whatever way you like, but please just tell us when we get to hold our babies???
Three and a half years (and rising all the time) until we can apply to an overseas adoption agency. Up to another two years after that, depending on the country chosen, before we get our babies. The domestic adoption list in Ireland has been closed for 3 years, nobody giving up their babies these days.
But we're in the system now. Our initial application will be processed in about 2 years' time.