LimboPregnancy Loss is a very lonely spot. Parenting message boards do have a place for it, but it's not a very busy board. You can post your sad news, and then lots of people who've never lost a child will say how sorry they are, and plenty of people who had losses, but probably a long time ago, will offer support and words of wisdom. And that's it.
You're on your own after that, until you can start trying again. Nowhere to go during the dark days between loss and and the renewal of hope. For infertiles, that can be a long time.
The birth clubs are full of people going through the same experiences at the same time. The TTC boards also. Places full of support and empathy and understanding. Pregnancy Loss residents arive alone and leave alone soon after.
I've often seen it said on my preferred parenting message board, that people who've suffered a loss or can't conceive shouldn't be on a parenting board in the first place. Some of us already have children and participate in other areas of the board, but nobody in the world imagines in that first flush of excitement when they invest in the board, that they will end up in the Pregnancy Loss or Infertility sections. It takes a long time and many close friendships to get there. Should we just leave quietly now?
Maybe there should be a Limbo section, for people who just feel like shit, for whatever reason. Where we can rant and rave all day about how crap we feel. I want a message board like that. At least I have my blog.