Feel the fear and do it anywayWe did something crazy, reckless and very uninfertile-like today - we brought DS to a scan. I am 22w3d with very regular movement so after careful analysis of the ongoing risk management program, we decided to give it a lash. Outcome: successful. Baby is alive and kicking, all bits and parts (including the girl ones) present and correct. And the big boy is pleased as punch, albeit a little disappointed that she didn't wave at us or talk to us during the show.
I was pretty surprised to see, on a quick google, how many pregnancy and parenting sites advise bringing older children to scans to involve them with the new baby. Really??? Similarly, questions on message boards about bringing older siblings to first ultrasounds are always greeted with enthusiastic, positive gushing. Now, this is the first scan, the one at which you find out if your baby is alive or dead. Is it really such a fab idea?
I know most women don't have the infertile, hab-ab fears that I do. But most women also don't have the fortnightly scans that I do, so a first scan at 12, 14 or even 18 weeks is likely to be the first feedback they get on baby's health. With one in four pregnancies ending in miscarriage, wouldn't you be just a little concerned? Maybe I'm just too much of a realist spoilsport. Or maybe the uninitiated just look at women like me and reckon we bring the stats up. It's true, we do. And then we reel them off at every available opportunity to try and make you feel the fear!!!
Just saying though, it can happen. Probably does all the time.