It has been sent to the printers so it's all out of my hands now. Yikes! The launch will take place on Tuesday 22nd April at 6.30pm in the Dublin Bookshop on Grafton St. You are all very welcome, in fact I would LOVE to meet you. I will send you an official invite closer to the time.
One of the most common questions I get asked is, "Is it new material or is it taken from the blog?". It is all new material and has very little to do with the blog, apart from the fact that it is written by me and I talk a lot about my own experiences in relation to the issue being discussed. Basically, it's a guide book to TTC which starts at the beginning, taking readers from the stage of recognising fertility signs and timing intercourse, through to looking for help, finding a fertility clinic, right through to IVF and beyond. It's full of facts and figures, advice on websites, where to buy HPTs etc, what to expect from medical professionals, how to choose a fertility clinic, how to cope with infertility, IVF, miscarriage, other people etc. I've offered my opinion where I thought it might be helpful and there are personal accounts and opinions from loads of other women (and one man!) who have experienced the topic in question.
It is opinionated, as I am, but I think anyone who has had to battle infertility while at the same time having to battle with the medical profession and the general public will agree that these things need to be said. I hope the book will be of some help to those that read it and I hope you like it! (Runs and hides.)
Despite trying to conceive for several years, "I knew there was nothing wrong with me. I knew that I could. Deep down, I really wanted it badly..."
Unlike the rest of us who only want it a bit, Jenny's faith, determination and general all-round perfection won the day. Despite trying for several years, she never once thought there was something "wrong" with her, it never entered her head that it wouldn't happen. Well, if you weren't convinced before that she is completely loola, here is all the evidence you need.
Hubby Marc Anthony's reasoning for the twin pregnancy is even funnier than the "twins run in the family" excuse - he says that twins were inevitable because everything his wife touches turns to gold! Has he ever seen Gigli?!?
There is something wrong with JLo and MAnt. They tried unsuccessfully to conceive for several years. They are infertile. If their twins were conceived naturally, then they were dealt a really big slice of good luck, and not just because they wished really hard for it. A spontaneous pregnancy after 3 years TTC has about a 1% chance of happening each cycle. Of course it is possible but most people would describe it in terms of a "miracle" and a "blessing", as opposed to an inalienable right due to their own perfection.
And there's the crux of the matter. Infertility is perceived in the media as an imperfection, in Jenny's own words, something "wrong with me". It makes her look old, weakened, more like us. Unlike the shot of "Jennifer and Marc clowning around with their $3,000 prams". See, Jenny's not like us, only good things happen to her. That is why she has $3,000 prams and we don't.
I am going to preempt the "You can't judge her, she has a right to her privacy" comments with this:
BOLLOX!!!! She has paraded her newborn twins in public for a reported $6m fee. She has put them on show, people are bound to ask questions about them because she has put them out there. Live by the media, die by the media.
By Peep. I must post six random things about myself. As I've said previously, I don't like talking about myself much, so let's see...
1. I love quizzes, any sort really - the harder and faster the questions, the better. So does DH - we are very competitive.
2. I have an extra-strong sense of smell. Not really an asset.
3. Although I don't make a big deal of it, bad spelling and punctuation really annoy me, to the point that they might actually affect my opinion of the writer as a person! And yes, if you find any typos on my blog, you may apply appropriate punishment.
4. I suffer from repetitive strain injury (RSI), although it is a lot more manageable now than when I was a full-time nerd.
5. A chain of events that just happened led me to think of point number 4, and it is a measure of my current state of calmness and serenity that I have decided to let it lie and not post about it. So point number 5 is - I am very calm and serene these days.
6. I'm a big Man Utd fan. Since 1975. That's the season they spent in the old 2nd Division. If I had been a glory-seeker, I would have chosen Derby County. Not that I regularly find myself in the position of having to be defensive about my choice or anything.
The Rules: 1) Link to the person who tagged you. 2) Post the rules. 3) Share six non-important things / habits / quirks about yourself. 4) Tag at least two people. 5) Make sure the people you tagged KNOW you tagged them by commenting what you did.
Oh, I've just read the rules. Number 6 is actually a very important thing but I can't be bothered thinking of anything else so it stays.
It was great to meet up with some of my virtual friends and put a few faces to names. Big congrats to Grandad and Grannymar, who were joint winners in my category, Best Personal Blog. Also to Sinead and Twenty Major, who both made it three in a row - a pleasure to meet both of them too. Biggest congrats of all to Damien, who must have special powers to stretch time to be able to fit so much work into one man's life.
But what has fannying about at awards ceremonies got to do with infertility and babies? Not a lot, so it was back to business today. I spoke on East Coast FM on the subject of women having babies later in life. I was pitted against Dr James Clinch, a former Master of the Coombe hospital, who maintained that women should have babies between the ages of 20 and 25. I wasn't really sure what my role was to be until the discussion started, but it seemed like I was there to be the "older woman" who had had difficulties because of this. Never one to shy away from a debate on fertility, I found myself fighting the corner of the 30-something woman who is having or trying to have her first child. Gosh, we do get a lot of stick sometimes. It's all those hard-nosed career women, who selfishly put off having babies until their 40s cos they can just do IVF and create designer babies out of all the donor sperm and eggs available, that give the rest of us a bad name.
For the motion: 1. It is certainly easier for 20-25 year old women to conceive and carry a child.
Against the motion: 1. Most women are not "waiting" to have children, many simply don't meet their partners until later in life. 2. Try convincing 20-25 year old men to have children. 3. Our increased life expectancy has changed where we see ourselves in the ageing process and many 20-25 year olds are no longer socially, culturally or emotionally ready to have children. 4. There is little social or economic support for younger women who have children. 5. Male-factor infertility, which is not particularly age-related, accounts for as many cases as female-factor, so this affects couples of all ages. 6. 20-25 year olds are all a shower of irresponsible piss-heads who wouldn't know one end of a baby from the other [may be a gross generalisation].